Spoken Word – Real Man Fantasy


REAL MAN FANTASY_2MAR2012 (G-Rated Version)

C’mon bruh!  You still live with yo momma, and unless she’s the one… that’s keeps it hard with a lick…
Then I don’t even need to hear about the size of your stick….
Cause it has no bearing on the conversation that I wanna deal wit’.
Which is, your claim over how much…. of a REAL MAN you are
Even though every time we holla… yo butt is out at the bar.
 
You see, I’m not a lonely female who is so easily persuaded
By your L.L.  lip lick and the pec muscles you flick…
Your pretty-boi dance moves , Or your new baller shoes.
So…. You can stop all of that.. I’m not remotely convinced
It gets you nowhere with me…. So just get off the fence
Between child- and man-hood ….it’s not a good look
It’s time for you to man-up and have your reality shook.
 
And yea, I think I’m being ever so slightly judgmental,
But it’s about time somebody shared with you..you must be plagued with something mental
‘Cause when you are over twenty-five and you have no degree,
You have No home that you’ve purchased and you still live rent free,
Then, you need to be measured, it’s part of the price you pay
 For living the life you have chosen to live called… The Real Man “Fan-ta-say”…. Say What???
 
I can’t stand that Your dreams are built on the backs of those who really love you..
Taking advantage with a promise of… “You give me one I’ll give you two…”
“After I make it of course”, WE all in this together, ‘cause there is no divorce.
‘Cause you don’t marry your momma, your sista or yo girl,
You string everyone along for the dirt you do called pearls
True, pearls take a long time and then they still must be found and harvested
And since you’ve never even planted you will always be starving
Starving for attention.  for money, even for fame.
And the lies you live your life upon keep you perpetually lame.
You know?….Disabled…difficult…., weak… and ineffectual,
But you can’t even see it ‘cause your strength is just sexual .
I knew you didn’t know the meaning cause that’s too intellectual
For you to bother with vocabulary that you will live but never speak.
Can’t even name how many times you’ve punched a clock beyond 8 weeks.
 
Oh, and the lil soapbox you like to stand on with all your brothahood pride
Keeps you visible as the icon of the Black-man’s plight
Fist power raised for the brothas, who are down for “THE FIGHT”
Of being held down by “The System”….held back by “The Man”….
Everything you do is a fight against your awesome master plan
That says you would do better, could do better , should be better.. IF
Folks just got outta your way and let you spread your wings for cheddar.
 
The real truth is you’re doing what you do ‘cause it works
For brotha’s like you who don’t really wanna work..
Hard from the bottom to achieve what’s at the top
Starting with a bucket full of bleach water and the rag-tail mop.
But mopping floors will breed the integrity and the work ethic you lack
For you to build your empire that buys the Benz and the ‘Lac.
 
I’m all for you chasing the dreams as they develop from the start
But I refuse to watch you use my women for even a small part
Of your Manipulating Fantasy-trip…through this life full of REAL MEN
Who don’t just dream it… but we do it… and we do it from our heart!
 
So wake up now young man….It not hard to achieve
The things you want out of your life based on what you believe
What matters the most… is that you never forget
This may be the last time…it may be your last chance
 
So, make investing in you count…. Make loving on you worth
Supporting your dream to be as valuable as your first birth.
 
You are not just a fantasy…a figment of our imagination
You are the promise, the backbone of the next generation.
 
We Real Men will stand with you… ‘cause one can teach one….
We Real Men will Love you….As A Father Loves His Son.
 
 
Submitted By:  Steven D. Randolph – aka StevieD —- #basictruth
 
 

Fear: Understanding Its Parts Before Managing Its Whole


FEAR

     Let me just say it up front, MEN HAVE FEARS and at times, MEN OPERATE OUT OF THEIR FEAR.  No need for the band to play, cheerleaders to contort into three-dimensional expressions of “I TOLD YOU SO”…and… the fat lady need not sing.  It is neither difficult nor embarrassing to admit that men have some of the same emotional struggles while navigating the relationship space as do their female counterparts.  Now, that being said.  We can move forward.  

Despite the rhetoric of many alpha personalities, fear is NOT a diminutive emotion or emotional response, which should only be expressed by the “weaker sex” or “un-real” men.  Fear Has Purpose.  Fear has Perspective.  Fear has Position.  Fear has Power.  One thing that Fear lacks is PEACE!   To allow fear to exist in your life and specifically within your relationship quest, requires you to declare imminent if not immediate war with your available spirit peace.  Fear Is The Enemy of Spirit Peace.

For discussion purposes, consider the following:   

  “Fear is the feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or imminence of danger.”  

Fear Has Purpose:    We are always led to believe that fear is innately bad.  Without getting into the theological discussion of fear as expressed in the Holy Bible, “God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power , of love and sound mind….(2 Timothy 1:7)”, fear is a naturally occurring emotion for mankind.  This scripture simply and emphatically highlights its spirit source.  However, it’s purpose remains.  The purpose of fear is to bring about an increased awareness of and sensitivity toward the spirit space of our everyday environment.  We are three-dimensional (body, soul and spirit)beings and our relationships are a convergence of these three dimensions.  This convergence occurs whether we want it to or not.  Conflict comes when your body, mind and spirit are not in agreement with the body, mind and spirit of the target of your desired relationship.

 Fear Has Perspective:   Perspective is a point of view.  Fear is the view of a circumstance or sometimes even the idea of a circumstance from the inside of you (your mind), looking outward.  No one can exert fear over you.  One must make the choice to express fear with regard to a specific internal or external catalyst..  Where there is a choice, there is a responsiblity.  Where there is responsibility there is accountability.  If you are responsible for making a choice out of fear, then you are equally accountable for the consequence of that fear-choice.  Consequence is not innately negative, consequence is simply an end-result, be it positive or negative in comparison.

 Fear Has Position:  We give fear a position of influence in our lives. Period.   This position can either be subordinate in nature or dominant in practice.  Once again, we are met with the dilemma of choice.  And in fact, fear has the uncanny strategy of deceiving us into believing we don’t actually have a choice in the matter.  This is where the negativity of fear occurs and reeks havoc in the lives of those who allow fear to have a headliner role in the stage performance of our lives. Fear requires balance when it is present.  

Fear Has Power: Fear gets its power directly from the position in which one allows it to hold within one’s life. Fear is a forward-impacting emotion that can stop you from exerting power over your future, even your intended destiny.  Fear will cripple your ability to exert power over  aspects of  your life that are not good for your Healthy Stablility and Survival,  Fear, in the wrong position, will decrease your freedom to excercise power over whom to give and recieve proper love.  Fear, that is out of balance, can overtake your power to choose to function in soundness of mind. 

Ultimately, Fear is in direct opposition to the peace that is the designed state of mind and state of existence for our lives.  Fear is at war with our God peace.  We may not be able to annihilate fear from our lives totally, but, when we understand its elements, when we are sensitive to its tactics, when we are aware of it impact and influence we are better equipped to manage it into submission.

(Program Note: Stay tuned for additional entries related to “THE WEAKER SEX” and “The UN-REAL MAN”) 

  • The Latest and Greatest

  • A Blast from The Past…..

  • Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

    Join 9 other followers

  • Blog Stats

    • 2,800 hits
  • What I Said Before….

%d bloggers like this: